I'll ask the question all parents/soon to be parents want to know. How can your child be a flexible child? Are there any studies founded that help parents not necessarily train but help there children become this type of child?
I am commenting on the question by vkohnen. I have a flexible child and I became his advocate in the classroom. He was the one who never spoke up if someone was bothering him. He never wanted to disturb the teacher or "make waves" with his classmates and those kids can get forgotten in a large classroom. So I just talked to him and kept communication open, so if a situation arose that I thought he needed some extra support, then I could be there to help him. But I never stepped in for him unless I asked him first, because sometimes I perceived the need more than he did. Moms can do that once in awhile if we aren't careful. I also found direct communication through e-mail and conferences with the teacher to be very helpful. Afterall, you do know your child best, so let them know what you know.
Do you think putting a child in too many after school programs, such as dance, basketball, swimming, the list can go on can make a child less or more flexible?
I work in a very diverse community in Southwest Minnesota -- Worthington. A majority of the children in the school system speak a language other than English. How does culture fit into temperament? Are there cultural tendencies that would complicate the ability to determine a child's temperamental traits? Does culture play a role in the continuum of mild to strong or high to low?
When I think of the flexibility of a child I think of how easily the child can transition to new activities. If they transition easily or not so easily. I know a few ways you can help a child who is not flexibile (schedules, warnings when something will change, etc) but that always doesn't work. Is there anything other than those such things that can help. Then on the other hand with kids who are very flexibile. Is that something to be worried about? (Ashley Wilts 227)
Kids that are flexible, do they learn how to be this way, or is innate? For me, I would have to say that I was always pretty easy going, but I had to work on it to be very flexible and persistent at the same time.
Karen: Culture definitely plays a role in ALL human interaction. Different cultures value temperament traits differently from one another. For example, some cultures love the feisty "fiery" temperaments that we can find challenging and encourage their children to display those types of behaviors. Other cultures prefer quiet, docile children that are seen and not heard. And, since temperament does have a genetic component, it would stand to reason that certain traits may be more prevalent in certain families or cultures (although I don't know specifics about how this actually plays out). Being aware of the various cultures that you work with and their preferences will help you out as you strive to createa goodness-of-fit for individual children.
Thank you Renae. I worry that some children are in an environment with a "poorness of fit". Your comment about knowing the culture of the children you work with is important in creating that goodness of fit.
If a child is flexible is it possible to push them to their limits where they may no longer be easy to work with and need more time to get used to an idea?
Is being a real flexible child sometimes a dis advantage. What I mean is, are they sometimes forgotten. It is kind of easy to forget about a child that goes with the flow, when you have a child who is really high needs, and draws most of your attention. What are some tips to help ensure that the flexible kid gets as much attention as the high needs kid. ECE150
Mike -- I agree with you completely. My brother is a very flexible easy going person. And as much as I hate to say it... he is sometimes forgotten. The other siblings are more prone to get attention than he is. I think this may be due to the fact that they know he is flexible and does not need attention... but do you think it is possible that deep down inside these children really do want to be noticed, they just do not know how to do it without causing a fuss?
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When you have a child that is flexible, what sort of things can parents do to ensure that their child is not left behind?
I'll ask the question all parents/soon to be parents want to know. How can your child be a flexible child? Are there any studies founded that help parents not necessarily train but help there children become this type of child?
I am commenting on the question by vkohnen. I have a flexible child and I became his advocate in the classroom. He was the one who never spoke up if someone was bothering him. He never wanted to disturb the teacher or "make waves" with his classmates and those kids can get forgotten in a large classroom. So I just talked to him and kept communication open, so if a situation arose that I thought he needed some extra support, then I could be there to help him. But I never stepped in for him unless I asked him first, because sometimes I perceived the need more than he did. Moms can do that once in awhile if we aren't careful. I also found direct communication through e-mail and conferences with the teacher to be very helpful. Afterall, you do know your child best, so let them know what you know.
Do you think putting a child in too many after school programs, such as dance, basketball, swimming, the list can go on can make a child less or more flexible?
I work in a very diverse community in Southwest Minnesota -- Worthington. A majority of the children in the school system speak a language other than English. How does culture fit into temperament? Are there cultural tendencies that would complicate the ability to determine a child's temperamental traits? Does culture play a role in the continuum of mild to strong or high to low?
When I think of the flexibility of a child I think of how easily the child can transition to new activities. If they transition easily or not so easily. I know a few ways you can help a child who is not flexibile (schedules, warnings when something will change, etc) but that always doesn't work. Is there anything other than those such things that can help. Then on the other hand with kids who are very flexibile. Is that something to be worried about? (Ashley Wilts 227)
Kids that are flexible, do they learn how to be this way, or is innate? For me, I would have to say that I was always pretty easy going, but I had to work on it to be very flexible and persistent at the same time.
Karen: Culture definitely plays a role in ALL human interaction. Different cultures value temperament traits differently from one another. For example, some cultures love the feisty "fiery" temperaments that we can find challenging and encourage their children to display those types of behaviors. Other cultures prefer quiet, docile children that are seen and not heard.
And, since temperament does have a genetic component, it would stand to reason that certain traits may be more prevalent in certain families or cultures (although I don't know specifics about how this actually plays out).
Being aware of the various cultures that you work with and their preferences will help you out as you strive to createa goodness-of-fit for individual children.
How do we get children that aren't that flexible to become more flexible?
If a child is flexible, is their any way they can grow out of it and change completly, maybe even into a more feisty person? (ECE 150)
Thank you Renae. I worry that some children are in an environment with a "poorness of fit". Your comment about knowing the culture of the children you work with is important in creating that goodness of fit.
If a child is flexible is it possible to push them to their limits where they may no longer be easy to work with and need more time to get used to an idea?
Is being a real flexible child sometimes a dis advantage. What I mean is, are they sometimes forgotten. It is kind of easy to forget about a child that goes with the flow, when you have a child who is really high needs, and draws most of your attention. What are some tips to help ensure that the flexible kid gets as much attention as the high needs kid. ECE150
Mike -- I agree with you completely. My brother is a very flexible easy going person. And as much as I hate to say it... he is sometimes forgotten. The other siblings are more prone to get attention than he is. I think this may be due to the fact that they know he is flexible and does not need attention... but do you think it is possible that deep down inside these children really do want to be noticed, they just do not know how to do it without causing a fuss?
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