How do you help children that have a hard time in new situations? My daughter is very shy and will cry if she is left with someone that she doesn't know really well. I know this is normal for older infants but for a four year old to still do this worries me.
With a Withdawing child how can you make them feel part of the group and still have them be comfortable? Is there anything specifically that can be done or do you have to wait for the child to be ready to interact with the other children?
Is there any link between withdrawing children later in life having anxity problems? Or possibly is it multiple temperament traits that go into later on anxity problems?
How is the withdrawal & approach brought about. Does it have to do with genetics or from learned behaviors, environment? What other problems do you see with children as they age besides withdrawal?
when setting up groups in the classroom is it best to put together children that are more outgoing with children that are more likely to withdrawl, or will this just set an atmosphere where the more outgoing kids will take over and leave the other children out.
Is this the trait that fits the categories of extrovert and introvert? I know of a teenager who exhibited the qualities of an extrovert through the 8th grade. As a 12th grader, he is very much an introvert. Is there something that occurs during adolescence that would cause an extrovert to become an introvert? Is this an example of peer and school influences on a child's temperament? Karen D (227)
If a child is withdrawn, would more one on one attention from the teacher help to make the child more confident in his interactions with his peers? What is the best way to help a withdrawn child feel more comfortable in group setting? Thanks! Laura Roos 227
For a child that is very approaching, what can parents and teachers do to teach him or her that they need to be cautious in some situations and around some people? Sheryl Moerman (227)
How do you help children that have a hard time in new situations? My daughter is very shy and will cry if she is left with someone that she doesn't know really well. I know this is normal for older infants but for a four year old to still do this worries me. (150)
You all make really good points! I guess that it makes me wonder what it would be like to be a withdrawing person rather than an approaching. I know that it is hard for some people to warm up but I guess it is something that people as they get older have to get used to and have to be more approaching. Don't you think?
Do you think it is right as parents to force our children into clubs and sports so they can get some involvement and social interation with others, so they won't be so withdrawing as adults? (ECE 227)
Pekas... It is really hard to be an adult with a withdrawing temperament. People expect me to be polite and introduce myself and that is really hard. A lot of people even think that I am snotty because I am quiet. Kids can just be labeled as shy but that's not as accepted once you're older.
Good stuff --- I think I'll start this way.... As a withdrawing temperament myself I tend to stop & take in the 'whole' picture before moving forward. I have 'learned' that it is ok to slowly take it all in & I have little techniques I use to 'enter' into groups etc. I still 'feel' withdrawing but I use tricks to get myself into new situations.
For children a huge piece 'understanding' that they are withdrawing and not forcing them to move faster. You can encourage while at the same time helping them to know that you understand how they are feeling on the inside.
Sometimes just positioning your body between them & what is new while you talk in a soothing & encouraging way is enough. Think of being pushed to the front of a line when you know there is cliff/drop off somewhere... that might be how they feel but if there is someone physically in front of them they can 'take in' the situation more slowly.
It is important to help others know their withdrawing temperament as well because you can really 'slow' the intruder down then. Instead of grandma grabbing the shy toddler (even if it's GRANDMA!) we can take things more slowly & calmly.
Teaching techniques is important as it gives tools to cope in those situations where you have to become approaching.
One of the things that I love about slow to warm children is that they always think before acting. In the long run it will save them money- no impulse buys. The research demonstrates that it is very important not to avoid situations with this child, but instead support them and gently "nudge" them. So for four-year-old who has a tough time when mom leaves. I would make a picture planner with her which would include four to six squares. The first one would show what time mom would drop her off -I'd start with someone she knows well and keep the visit short- the next one - three would show what she is going to do while mom is gone ie. paint, read, go to the park and the final one shows when she'll be picked up. Then take with her a color timer and set it for the amount of time mom will be gone so that she can 'see' it - the color disappears. The first visit may be a mere five to ten minutes. Then build off of that success. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Mary-I liked the idea of the picture planner. I think that would be an effective tool to build on to help your child get used to being away from mom and going out there and participating.
How can you as a parent help your child become more social? Do children who are home schooled have more problems socially then kids who are in public school? ECE227
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How do you help children that have a hard time in new situations? My daughter is very shy and will cry if she is left with someone that she doesn't know really well. I know this is normal for older infants but for a four year old to still do this worries me.
With a Withdawing child how can you make them feel part of the group and still have them be comfortable? Is there anything specifically that can be done or do you have to wait for the child to be ready to interact with the other children?
Is there any link between withdrawing children later in life having anxity problems? Or possibly is it multiple temperament traits that go into later on anxity problems?
How is the withdrawal & approach brought about. Does it have to do with genetics or from learned behaviors, environment? What other problems do you see with children as they age besides withdrawal?
when setting up groups in the classroom is it best to put together children that are more outgoing with children that are more likely to withdrawl, or will this just set an atmosphere where the more outgoing kids will take over and leave the other children out.
Is this the trait that fits the categories of extrovert and introvert? I know of a teenager who exhibited the qualities of an extrovert through the 8th grade. As a 12th grader, he is very much an introvert. Is there something that occurs during adolescence that would cause an extrovert to become an introvert? Is this an example of peer and school influences on a child's temperament? Karen D (227)
If a child is withdrawn, would more one on one attention from the teacher help to make the child more confident in his interactions with his peers? What is the best way to help a withdrawn child feel more comfortable in group setting? Thanks! Laura Roos 227
For a child that is very approaching, what can parents and teachers do to teach him or her that they need to be cautious in some situations and around some people? Sheryl Moerman (227)
How do you help children that have a hard time in new situations? My daughter is very shy and will cry if she is left with someone that she doesn't know really well. I know this is normal for older infants but for a four year old to still do this worries me. (150)
What if a child isn't afraid of going with anyone? How to we teach our children who is safe to go with and who isn't? (150)
You all make really good points! I guess that it makes me wonder what it would be like to be a withdrawing person rather than an approaching. I know that it is hard for some people to warm up but I guess it is something that people as they get older have to get used to and have to be more approaching. Don't you think?
Do you think it is right as parents to force our children into clubs and sports so they can get some involvement and social interation with others, so they won't be so withdrawing as adults? (ECE 227)
Pekas...
It is really hard to be an adult with a withdrawing temperament. People expect me to be polite and introduce myself and that is really hard. A lot of people even think that I am snotty because I am quiet. Kids can just be labeled as shy but that's not as accepted once you're older.
Good stuff --- I think I'll start this way....
As a withdrawing temperament myself I tend to stop & take in the 'whole' picture before moving forward. I have 'learned' that it is ok to slowly take it all in & I have little techniques I use to 'enter' into groups etc. I still 'feel' withdrawing but I use tricks to get myself into new situations.
For children a huge piece 'understanding' that they are withdrawing and not forcing them to move faster. You can encourage while at the same time helping them to know that you understand how they are feeling on the inside.
Sometimes just positioning your body between them & what is new while you talk in a soothing & encouraging way is enough. Think of being pushed to the front of a line when you know there is cliff/drop off somewhere... that might be how they feel but if there is someone physically in front of them they can 'take in' the situation more slowly.
It is important to help others know their withdrawing temperament as well because you can really 'slow' the intruder down then. Instead of grandma grabbing the shy toddler (even if it's GRANDMA!) we can take things more slowly & calmly.
Teaching techniques is important as it gives tools to cope in those situations where you have to become approaching.
One of the things that I love about slow to warm children is that they always think before acting. In the long run it will save them money- no impulse buys. The research demonstrates that it is very important not to avoid situations with this child, but instead support them and gently "nudge" them. So for four-year-old who has a tough time when mom leaves. I would make a picture planner with her which would include four to six squares. The first one would show what time mom would drop her off -I'd start with someone she knows well and keep the visit short- the next one - three would show what she is going to do while mom is gone ie. paint, read, go to the park and the final one shows when she'll be picked up. Then take with her a color timer and set it for the amount of time mom will be gone so that she can 'see' it - the color disappears. The first visit may be a mere five to ten minutes. Then build off of that success. Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Mary-I liked the idea of the picture planner. I think that would be an effective tool to build on to help your child get used to being away from mom and going out there and participating.
How can you as a parent help your child become more social? Do children who are home schooled have more problems socially then kids who are in public school? ECE227
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